Prepare honest refusals and feedback by separating facts from personal preferences. Review gaps between what you think and say, make praise specific, and direct criticism toward actions or practices while respecting privacy and confidentiality.
当用户问怎么真诚沟通/拒绝别人/给反馈/不想说场面话、或发现自己在隐瞒时调用。核心理念: 撒谎会先骗到自己(费曼: 你最容易愚弄的人是你); 彻底诚实=所想与所说一致; 具体表扬、一般批评; 秘密越少快乐越多。不适用于: 需要外交辞令的谈判策略(可以诚实但不必全说)。
Triggers: 诚实/沟通/拒绝/批评/表扬/秘密/场面话/honesty/communication/feedback
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彻底的诚实仅是意味着我想自由。……在你向别人撒谎之前，你必须先对自己撒谎。……我会把彻底的诚实和沃伦·巴菲特的一条老的行事规则结合起来，那是具体地表扬、一般地批判。
— 纳瓦尔·拉维坎特, 《纳瓦尔宝典》
诚实不是道德表演，而是认知安全与心理自由： ① 撒谎先骗自己——费曼「你从不应该在任何时候愚弄任何人，你是最容易愚弄的人」；对别人撒谎会让你相信自己的谎话，扭曲对事实的判断； ② 诚实=自由——所想与所说高度一致时，内心没有需要维护的多重线程；不与需要你注意言辞的人相处； ③ 具体表扬、一般批评——批评指向做法/类别而非个人，表扬要具体到这个人最值得称赞的点，这样对方的自我不会与你对抗； ④ 秘密越少，快乐越多——需要隐藏的东西会变成内心负担； ⑤ 诚实的边界感——「我不会主动说一些消极或令人讨厌的事」，诚实不等于口无遮拦。
self-liberation 的区别: 解放 skill 给「说不」的边界，本 skill 给「怎么说」peer-selection 的区别: 诚实是内部一致性标准；同伴选择是外部筛选标准检查自欺点
用事实句式重述
执行具体表扬、一般批评
清理一个秘密
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